Psychologically Sound Teaching Tip: You Do Not Always Know What The Student Needs.

Sometimes the power that comes with being "Teacher" is blinding. You think you know what is best. You think you know what is right. You think you know what the student needs.

Sometimes you do.
Sometimes you don't.

You see, what the student needs is a moving target. Growing, shifting and changing as they evolve.
You see, what the student needs is an articulation process over time that hopefully they have greater and greater access to naming for themselves and to you.
Ironically, this often corresponds to you saying what they need less and them knowing what they need, more.
You see, so long as you always know what they need--they are less likely to know it themselves. And so long as you have and know what they need, they need you.

You'll both suffer to that end.

Good teaching empowers students to respectfully say no thank you to you eventually. Because in the end, they will have to meet themselves where they are at.

Good teaching, provides skills and building blocks. Tools for the path. It is a process of collaborative engagement, not one sided feeding.

The moment you believe your teaching is The Right Way-- to move, to be, to access freedom--it has already gone terribly wrong.

Your way, your lineage, your alignment, your teaching skills are all A Way and never The Way.
Stay curious. Ask questions. Listen. Reflect.

Questions to ask yourself:
Is my seeing of this student clear?
Or is it a projection?
How does it or doesn't it correspond to what the student is actually saying and doing?
Have I given the student enough guidelines and enough freedom? Am I willing to ditch what I think I know to see the student clearly?
Am I willing to stand in what I do know and ask the student to respectfully experiment and come into relationship with that idea?


Livia Shapiro